It’s hard to deny that self-love is an important aspect of happiness – but loving yourself can be difficult when you have limiting and derogatory messages playing in your subconscious mind. Most of these messages are recorded during childhood, but their effects can be far reaching! Did you know that you’re still being influenced by the things your parents and others said to you decades ago?

When someone told you that you were no good, you believed them. When someone told you that you’d never amount to anything, you believed them. When someone told you that you were stupid or learning-disabled or weird, you believed them. And you still believe them to this day – even if you’re not consciously aware of these underlying beliefs.

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When you consider that low self-esteem is usually the result of negative messages being absorbed by the subconscious, it makes sense that feeding your mind more positive messages can make a powerful difference!

What stops most people is the uncertainty of what to say, and how to word affirmations for optimal effectiveness. Below you’ll find some simple tips to help you write effective affirmations for improving your self-esteem. Read more »

by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

“I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.” -Lucile Ball, 1911-1989, Comedienne and Actress

Lucile Ball was a very smart woman!

Do you believe that if you put others first, they will love and value you and you will feel loved? Has this worked for you?

Do you believe that if you love yourself first you are being selfish? Is it selfish to attend to your own feelings and needs so that you are not needy of others attention to you? Is it selfish to learn how to fill yourself up with love so that you have plenty of love to share with others, or is it actually selfish to expect others to do this for you?

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People tend to put themselves down. They do it without realizing it. It is bad for their confidence. To improve our health, we must come to a better understanding of ourselves. It may seem strange, but it is very important to have a real understanding of ourselves. Everyone talks to themselves in their head. This is to help you understand what self-talk is and how it can be used to build your self-esteem and confidence. With a higher level of confidence you will feel better about yourself and do the things you want to do and it all starts within ourselves.

When you read a book or an article, we self-internalize the words that are being read. It helps reinforce what we just read. It is the same with your thoughts and emotions. When you have a problem, we tend to size up the situation with the thoughts of, “can” or “can not.” It is a natural process and understanding this is the key to self-improvement. This all starts with a few steps. Here are some advices on how to do just that.

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