It’s hard to deny that self-love is an important aspect of happiness – but loving yourself can be difficult when you have limiting and derogatory messages playing in your subconscious mind. Most of these messages are recorded during childhood, but their effects can be far reaching! Did you know that you’re still being influenced by the things your parents and others said to you decades ago?

When someone told you that you were no good, you believed them. When someone told you that you’d never amount to anything, you believed them. When someone told you that you were stupid or learning-disabled or weird, you believed them. And you still believe them to this day – even if you’re not consciously aware of these underlying beliefs.

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People tend to put themselves down. They do it without realizing it. It is bad for their confidence. To improve our health, we must come to a better understanding of ourselves. It may seem strange, but it is very important to have a real understanding of ourselves. Everyone talks to themselves in their head. This is to help you understand what self-talk is and how it can be used to build your self-esteem and confidence. With a higher level of confidence you will feel better about yourself and do the things you want to do and it all starts within ourselves.

When you read a book or an article, we self-internalize the words that are being read. It helps reinforce what we just read. It is the same with your thoughts and emotions. When you have a problem, we tend to size up the situation with the thoughts of, “can” or “can not.” It is a natural process and understanding this is the key to self-improvement. This all starts with a few steps. Here are some advices on how to do just that.

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By Diana Rankin

Happiness is your birthright, and if you begin the day in a happy state of mind, you are better able to get through the day in a good frame of mind. Use these steps ways to start your day on the right foot.

Step 1:  Tomorrow morning’s happiness begins with tonight. As you are falling asleep, give yourself the suggestion that you will have a restful night’s sleep and wake refreshed in the morning. Be specific about what time you wish to awaken. Doing so will help you awaken in a peaceful state before the alarm sounds. A good night’s sleep is crucial to happiness. When we are tired, our problems always feel bigger and seem harder to handle.

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Did you know that you talk to yourself all day long? No, not the mental chatter about activities and chores that you need to remember throughout the day. That’s a form of self-talk too, but I’m referring more to the things you say to yourself on a regular basis; and more importantly, the tone in which you say them.

When you make a mistake, do you berate yourself angrily? Do you put yourself down or call yourself derogatory names? When you have a hard time making positive changes in your life, do you bemoan what a “worthless” person you are and conclude that you’ll never do anything right?

Negative self-talk can be incredibly damaging to your self-esteem and contribute to a chronic feeling of unhappiness and dissatisfaction.

When you keep saying negative things to yourself, eventually you begin to believe them!

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